To Young to be a Grandmother

Life is a beautiful thing, regardless. 16? she doesn't know how much her life is bouta change..wow..But you'll love the baby like crazy and forget about the age thing....how much u wanna bet its a boy?

wow alley, you could only do what she would let you do. you told her you would get her on the pill and she did'nt come to you and ask you to take her. i feel for you right now. not that this helps much but i got pregnant at 15 and married my boyfriend. we have been married for 31 years now. i was 16 when my daughter was born and my mom was 35. sometimes things work out. i really hope they do for your family. take care. remar

I agree with remar. sometimes things are just meant to be.  Most woman do not even have their first child until they are 36, so in a way, this is a blessing to you to be a grandmother at such a young age.  You have a lot to think about.  The first one being will your daughter continue her education (she should) and also how much participation her boyfriend (and his parents) will have in all this.

Of course, there are options, depending on how far along your daughter is in her pregnancy.  Without prejudice, your options are:

1.  Abortion
2.  Adoption
3.  Accept the child as your own and your daughter continues with her education.

and at 36... do you really want to be a mother again to a newborn?

I had my son when I was 15.  Now I'm a granny  = )

Loretta Lynn had her first at 14 and was a grandmother at 29

Being a granny lets me spend time with my grandson, spoil him a little, teach him a little, learn from him a lot and when he makes a mess - I give him back to his Dad  = P

#1 son was a surprise, to me and my family.  Now he and his siblings are young adults and despite all the obstacles we had to overcome they are all drug free; alcohol free; crime free and even debt free.  They grew up in the ghetto with one parent who was struggling with her own depression and anxiety.  But they turned out fine.

can i just tell you about my brothers daughter ,........she was only 15 years old at the time ,...........they found out she was haveing a baby ,... her teacher sent for my brother and his wife to tell them ther daughter didnt seem well ,.............and to take her to ther d,r, .....they found out she was haveing a baby ,........like,!! there  baby was have a baby of her own ,.........well my brother was devastated,.......just like you and a lot of other parents are ,.....and that's understandable ,..........he wouldn't talk to her ,......and this was breaking her heart ,.......after all she had been with this boy since she was 13 years old ,........and she loved him to ,........but she needed her dad more than ever at that time ,.....so we as his sisters had a long talk with him ,.......and make him  realize she was still his daughter and it was breaking her heart to see him like that ,.........he soon woke up ,.....she now has a beautiful grandaughter who is now 12 years old ,.........and my brother adores his granddaughter .......try and realize and i know its a shock to you now ,.......but there are worse things in life than a young girl haveing a baby,.........i wish to god my daughter was still alive ,....and for me to see her children ,she was 17 ,when she took her life ,......and i will never see her have a child ,....so please dont be to heard on yourself and try and enjoy your new grandchild please god ,.......

I was 17 when i had my eldest son, and yes it was amazingly difficult, my mum was 36 when i made her a grandmother and she absolutely adores him, i know its hard, it must have killed my mum when i told her i was pregnant
it is a shame that your daughter didn't come to you, but remember what you were like at 16 (would you tell your mum you were having sex?)
acceptance will come with time don't be hard on yourself it must be a huge shock that your baby is having a baby of her own
good luck to you and all your family and my best wishes to your daughter, she is in for the shock of her life!!!
Sarah xx

Wow, thank you all for your supportive comments.  Just a few things I'll clear up.  My daughter was on birth control at 14 because she was having sex with a previous boyfriend, but they broke up and she made it clear that she wasn't having sex with this boyfriend. (thats where the DUMB me steps in!!) I told her to stay on the pill, but she complained it made her sick.  So, since she didn't have a bf I allowed her to come off.  One time at the ER we were told she has "something" in her and has something that allows her blood to clot easily.  I don't know

Her and this boyfriend have only been together 6 months.  Yes, when I was her age I was having sex with who turned out to be my husband and father of my 3 children.  I had my first at 19.  When I was 15 I took it upon myself to go to Planned Parenthood and get on the pill without my parents knowledge because I didn't want to get pregnant.  I only went off the pill when I wanted to get pregnant and I did that at 18.  

Thank you for all your support!!

Alley