am I a hypocrite?

Hello dear friend,
I was just back observing trying to sort out my problems and read your questions......

So many times we tend to push our beliefs and rules on another....... Is this what you are doing?...... Doesn't sound like it to me...... I think you didn't say ALL you wanted to say.... That is get out the entire message you wanted to say........

Do you think you could have added a few more words to soften the statement?????  Maybe say "If you are going to drink please be responsible"..... Explain we are all one drink away from disaster, heartache, and heartbreak.....

You giving up what you enjoy does not change what he is going to enjoy.....Recognizing the pitfalls and making that plain to him without "PREACHING".....I think that is the key....... The only thing that would make you a hipocrite is if you became intoxicated and allowed yourself to be seen by him.....
As for him calling you a drunk, He should have more respect as you are his mother.....  Even in jest, that is a hurtful thing to say..... People that never had mothers or fathers tend to see where those that do seem to have a "They will always be here " attitude......... "I'll fix it later"..... "They know I don't mean that"......

As far as changing him..... I don't think so....He is the only one that can change himself... If this is a problem, then point him in the right direction...... Knid of like taking the horse to the water.....If he wants to drink he will.......
When you look in the mirror, see his mother and be that to him.....I have never known preaching to work in situations such as this....Went through it myself....

We should treat our children, parents, husbands , wives, and yes friends as if this is the last time we will see them....It just may be Darling..... My head is still clouded, so I hope this makes sense and helps....
Gator

To me it seems what you are saying that there is more then just the drinking...I am no doctor but I do have experience as a former law enforcement officer in handling family disputes.  We are to accept people for who they are and not judge. we might not like what they are doing so we basically love the person and hate the act that does not fit into our beliefs. The next time an occurance happens, step back for a view of the whole picture and just do not tunnel vision in on one point of view. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Lee

thanks gator and lee you both have helped me so much...There is more I've forgot to add or maybe just can't yet. Not sure. thanks for your thoughts and prayers


friends always
Karen

i don't think you should drink even hard lemonade with medication.  More than one drink is too much and if you have them all the time well I think you answered your question.  your son shouldn't be telling you what to do and vise versa.  my sons were on hard drugs and one is off of them he is doing fine now.  

my problem is candy you want just one and i eat a whole bag and i have diabetes.  it is hard to stop when something taste so good.  i also love lemonade and i have never tried what you drink but it could be like my candy.  you like it you eat or drink it.  

good luck my son changed yours may too.