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It's been 5 months since my miscarriage

Jul 30, 2008 03:28PM - 4 comments

Well ladies it's been 5 months since I've had my miscarriage. And we haven't gotten pregnant again yet. And I'm so stressed, and upset about the whole thing. I wish I could just get pregnant quickly, It's been a long and hard 5 months.  I don't understand why it's so hard for me to get pregnant again. I called my doctor's nurse today because I feel like giving up forever and I just can't take it. So she told me that she would talk to my doctor and see if she thinks it's ok for me and DH to go see a specialist I sure hope they do because I think it would help us out a lot. I just want a bundle of joy to love and to hold. DH doesn't seem to support me about having a baby, he use to talk about it all the time but lately he doesn't seem to want anything to do with this. I called him today and told him about how I called my doctor, and he told me I thought we aren't going to think or talk about it. and I told him it's just TO hard but he doesn't seem to get it. And he said we can't support ourselves and our three dogs and I told him that I'm going to be pregnant for 9 months we don't need to worry about that until the time is right and he just doesn't seem to be on my side. I don't know what to do, I want a child so badly and I thought he did too. But I don't know =[ I guess we will see what the doctor says when she called me back. Thanks for reading my journal.


-Kathleen

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by MPatterson, Jul 30, 2008 03:44PM
I'm new and I don't mean to intrude but you sound so upset.  I get it.  My ex-husband and I went through the same thing when we were TTC.  Getting divorced tends to bring out a lot of things that happened during the relationship and he told me that he acted like this because he was getting just as upset as I was about not getting pregnant.  He  also said that he thought it was an issue with sperm count rather than on my end and it bothered his pride.  This was little consolation to me as he got pretty mean when we were trying and blamed things on me but maybe it might shed some light on why your DH is acting the way he is.  I know how hard it is to see AF month after month and not have anyone who shares the same sense of urgency and in some cases depression.  Hang in there and keep trying no matter what and don't lose hope.  I know it's hard sometimes but that's all we really have.

Good luck and bunches of baby dust.

by Nicole624, Jul 31, 2008 09:27AM
I am so sorry!!! It will happen, but when it is meant to happen. It sounds like your DH is scared, and is realizing what a HUGE responisbility having a baby is. Trust me, its expensive but definately worth it. You two need to sit down and make sure you both really want a baby. Maybe his mind has changed, and it wouldnt be fair to him if you got pregnant when he wasnt ready. I'm not trying to upset you, I just want you to be happy! Bringing a baby into the world definately tests a relationship, so make sure you both agree before you have a baby. Love ya, and if you need anything I'm here. ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

by fawngonzalez, Aug 01, 2008 08:04PM
The whole "rigamaro" with the doctor's and getting referrals can be so stressful, especially when you are sooo ready to get pregnant. I can definitely understand wanting to give up sometimes, when you want a baby so bad it can definitely bring up so many emotions toward the whole situation. DH can be like that mine has a fabulous sperm count but when ever I get emotional he's like "don't worry about it, it will happen" and trust me I know it doesn't make you feel any better. I'll be praying for you. =)

by ashiepooh, Aug 11, 2008 02:37PM
Well, I have some advice for you.  First off, it more sounds like your man is kind of hurt by the miscarriage.  Sometimes, it affects the guys just as much as the women and then they get this entire thing built up in their head, where they don't want to go through that pain of losing another one.  I would firstly talk to him about how he feels about everything that happened.  Yes, it's going to be painful, and hard but trust me it should make things work.  Now, If you try to take things slowly for like 2 months, to relax, and tell yourself to now try to make a baby, USUALLY your body will relax enough and you will more then likely get pregnant.  During July, that's what I told myself.  I wasn't going to worry about it this month, just to relax a bit, and I wasn't trying and I am pregnant now.  It may or may not work for you but trust me, it will help!  

I also want to tell you to keep your chin up, and try not to stress it!  :)

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