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Making A PLAN --- for something --- A Year away...

Jul 09, 2008 05:48PM - 17 comments

After reading some posts by some of the folks here, I've made the determination that some of us are lacking "SOMETHING".

And I watched my kid...

And I realized that every new day is a surprise to her... And a HOPE that something fun is going to happen the next day... The next hour... the next minute.

I noticed that when we planned something out --- you know... like going to the painting place --- a place where you paint already created ceramics... and drink lotsa mochas or something yummy.... Well - when we planned stuff out --- it was like "here it comes - here it comes --- oh boy oh boy!"

But if nothing was planned out --- I noticed a definite lull in her moods.

I thought... Hmmmmm... how can we apply this simplistic logic to ourselves?

I thought harder as I was replying to someone's comment - about how bad they were feeling post TX... It's like a light bulb came on --- A REALLY FREAKING BRIGHT ONE too! LOL!

I thought -- yanno - we're missing out on something:


HOPE
EXPECTATIONS
DREAMS

Sometimes - after TX - it's like you spent so much time being "down" --- that you forget to look back up again. You get caught in the doldrums of how much things hurt - how much effort it takes to do something that only a few years ago was simple - how much harder it is to think or do simple tasks...

You've forgotten how hard you have fought --- whether you've won or not ---- You've forgotten that DRIVE...  That need to keep plunging on...

Like you're left in Limbo.

And I realized that being in Limbo --- is the LACK OF EXPECTATION.

So - I think it's time to do something about that.

To bring back that expectation --- to bring back dreaming - to bring back hope.

I'm going to plan something...

I dunno what just yet....

But I'm going to make it something special for me... or for me and my family.

It's going to be set for a YEAR AWAY (and since I kinda thought about this near the 4th of July --- I'm going to make it for the 4th of July ----- or thereabouts 2009).

I dunno what it's going to be... It doesn't have to be expensive... Or expansive...

It just has to be planned out --- and brought to fruition.

It could be:

A special trip somewhere...
A special drive down a special highway...
A shopping spree...
A block party for the neighbors...
A renovation of a specific room...
A special garden...

It could be ANYTHING....

But it will bring back some excitement and some hope for me.

Will you join me --- and maybe make a plan for you --- for you and your family --- or you and your friends for next year?

I mean - seriously ---- let's really work on individual HOPE.. Individual FUN...

I'd love to see what you might be thinking of planning a year away....

I'll decide soon on what I want to do...

Methinks it's gonna be a big party for the neighbors --- and/or maybe a mini vacation.

I'm dreaming of BBQs - badminton nets - fishing --- and just hella fun.

Loud music... yanno?

What about you?

Could you use some hope --- and some excitement - some planning - some dreaming?

I know I can...

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by rita863, Jul 09, 2008 06:12PM
I think your on the right path....I know me and my kids keep talking about when I am done treating that we are want to go to Disney World, ( because its our (My) favorite place in the world).  Now I dont know if i will be able to afford it or if my treatment will be successful... but for now thats our plan. I also like the party idea you have with good food that i will finally enjoy again and DANCING all night!

It gives me something to look forward to after treatment!  It make the day to day, rash, coughm tiredness, mouth sores etc. bearable that and hopefully achieving SVR!!!!

I like the way you are thinking though.....I am sure others need something too!

Good post and great idea.

Your the best

peace
rita

by alagirl, Jul 09, 2008 07:04PM
you know, i never was afraid during tx that i wouldn't clear and get svr (due to being acute and low viral load etc.)  so even when i was sick, it didn't bother me that much emotionally.  after tx when i was still sick, i got scared all of a sudden that i'd won the battle and lost the war.  and all of a sudden i didn't feel like i had the rational arguments to hang onto that i did before, or at least, i wasn't sure i did.  and that fear really, really messed me up.  about three weeks ago i started feeling better in what was my first post tx indication that there is light at the end of my particular tx tunnel so I'm able to be optimistic again.

One thing I really want to do is create my own flower garden between now and next summer, and then to have a big party out there next year around this time, maybe even as a reunion with my family.  We have all of these terraces in our back yard and I would love to work on those, and maybe have some sort of water feature back there that I could take pride in knowing I had produced.  It would be something I would learn as I went along since I don't have much experience in gardening.



by rita863, Jul 09, 2008 07:09PM
YOU CAN DO IT!!!  i'm sure your garden would be amazing...and it will give you peace and pleasure!

by meki, Jul 09, 2008 08:03PM
OK - so start planning it girly!

I mean --- seriously - I'm going to outline my plan --- make it --- and then MAKE IT HAPPEN...

Which means I'll have to budget - figure out how much it will cost realistically - and how to save for it.

Means - I'll have to start thinking in advance at what point should I do something.....

Yanno?

PLANNING --- like I dunno --- like what they used to call Soirees or BALLS... or coming out parties ---- LOL!


by COPDOWN, Jul 12, 2008 06:29AM
I AGREE THE TO BE POSITIVE ABOUT RECOVERY IS THE BEST WAY. SET UP A PLAN OF ACTION IF POSSIABLE PRIOR TO TREATMENT BECAUSE WE ARE ALL EFFECTED DIFFERENTLY BY WHAT EVER MEDS WE TAKE,I TOOK CLINICAL TRIAL DOSES AND AFTER 2YRS AM STILL DEALING WITH SIDE EFFECTS BUT LAUGH ABOUT SOME OF THEM.REMEMBER TO THINK POSITIVE BECAUSE WE GOT IT AND CAN DEAL WITH IT LIFE IS STRANGE.GOD BLESS ALL. SAM

by CMcH, Oct 04, 2008 12:25AM
You are so inspiring! I love all of your posts. Optimistic in the face of many challenges. I am planning a cruise to Alaska next summer with my family. Maybe I'll stop by your block part. :)
I will hopefully be done w/TX end of May and hope that my sides are not too bad post TX. It is hard to plan any kind of project or travel when you don't know how you will feel. My doc say's just buy travel Ins.
Any suggestions on AK?

by meki, Oct 04, 2008 12:43AM
Oh my gosh yeah!!


Anywhere and everywhere.

I wouldn't do the cruise - UNLESS you LIKE cruises.

I would get in a plane and rent a car --- and go sight seeing...


The Denali Mountain ---- The train ride --- hop a flight to Kodiak --- go fishing in Soldotna... Oh there is just a TON of stuff to do --- so tell me what you like to do - and I'll tell you what is available...

Hugs!

by medicmommy, Oct 04, 2008 02:19AM
On the "bucket list"...
This post strikes close to home for me too...In the past I've been a terrible procrastinator...Well, no more. I'm now 2 months post txing, and have started on the path to finishing my bachelors degree in health care administration with the goal to be a patient care advocate in a bit over 2 years...I love being a paramedic, but after 25 years in EMS, the patients are getting bigger, and I'm not getting younger...time for plan "B"...I truly feel I've gotten a second chance at life...I worry when I feel a sharp pang in the liver area that the hep has come back...I guess all post txers do...But I'm pretty sure it hasn't...The odds are on my side...I'll keep you all posted!
Meki, I'm just dying to meet you someday...:) -Perhaps the next time I visit my Alaskan relatives....Take care!
                                                                               ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGZ))))))))))))))))))))        ~Melinda

by Kristina538, Oct 04, 2008 04:43AM
Post tx I'm joining the yakety-yak kayak club!!!   The oldest member is 90 years old, so even if I'm recovering slowly there'll be a place for me :-)!!!!!

by meki, Oct 04, 2008 11:21PM
ROFLMAO

I LOVE the YAKETY-YAK KAYAK club... LMAO -- that is fabulous



by GoofyDad, Oct 05, 2008 12:03AM
HOPE
EXPECTATIONS
DREAMS

That's why God created stripper bars!  LOL:)

by can-do-man, Oct 05, 2008 02:19AM
meki.........Could you use some hope --- and some excitement - some planning - some dreaming?
--------------------------------------------

Goof........HOPE
EXPECTATIONS
DREAMS

That's why God created stripper bars! LOL:)
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Ok goof, meki, next friday same place, same time.:)


by ohboyohboy, Oct 05, 2008 06:11AM
lol...i am now only 23 and i had stop dream for a while, i had stop hoping for a while, i had stop wishing for a while. i felt helpless, alone and scared...very scared.

like my username..i felt like 'oh boy oh boy'... why me...i didn't do anything to deserve it. but who deserve this.

so indeed 'the light bulb has turned on'...'so bright' that i am awake...thanks to yours words. i want the things i wanted before, i want my dreams...i want my optimistic back.

what do i want... i want a trip, i want fun.

but still my friends feel different around me..they dont know what to say or do...may be i should take this time to find myself, enjoy my own company...be bold an travel by myself...all the things i would learn.

Above all i want to fall in love....deeply in love...that's my impossible dream!

by meki, Oct 05, 2008 01:21PM
Just believe...

Because check it out...

WHAT IS THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN?

It doesn't happen right?

SO --- what if you continue to HOPE for it --- and put some WORK into it --- and at least give it a decent try....

Then your dreams can come true...


Hey Goof --- methinks you were at my work one day --- LMAO!

(They'd  kinda boo me off the stage --- LMAO)


by GoofyDad, Oct 06, 2008 12:05AM
I don't think anyone's booing you.

You inspire many. Keep up the good fight and be well. You deserve it,



by meki, Oct 06, 2008 02:45AM
Oh egads --- He's a sweetie too... LOL!

Hugs back @ya!

by GoofyDad, Oct 07, 2008 12:31AM
Thanks. It's a nice change to be thought of for more that just my raw sex appeal. I'm more than that. About 20 pounds more. :) :) :)



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