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The hardest thing I've ever had to do
by Griggsy, Jul 18, 2008 10:02AM
Yestday was the hardest day of my life.
DH and I have been ttc for 14 months now. In October my oldest sister told me she was pregnant with number 5. We were super excited for them, but jealous at the same time.
Well during her pregnancy she was experiencing good things, DH and I were going through blood work, surigeries, and month after month of disappointment. On 06/30 we were actually able to have our first IUI. . . . it didn't take. This week has been so emotionally draining, but yesterday she went into labor.
I have 8 nieces and nephews and I have seen all but one of them born. That L&D room was the only place I wanted to be last night, but it was the hardest thing to do without just sitting there and bawling. I was so excited for her, and I didn't want her to think otherwise.
After everything was said and done I congradulated them and left. . . . breaking done in the nurses lounge as I went to the fridge to pick up my fertility meds to take home.
It's one thing to have pg friends, but when it's family it's soooooo much harder. Esp being there. I don't think I can do that again anythime soon.
DH and I have been ttc for 14 months now. In October my oldest sister told me she was pregnant with number 5. We were super excited for them, but jealous at the same time.
Well during her pregnancy she was experiencing good things, DH and I were going through blood work, surigeries, and month after month of disappointment. On 06/30 we were actually able to have our first IUI. . . . it didn't take. This week has been so emotionally draining, but yesterday she went into labor.
I have 8 nieces and nephews and I have seen all but one of them born. That L&D room was the only place I wanted to be last night, but it was the hardest thing to do without just sitting there and bawling. I was so excited for her, and I didn't want her to think otherwise.
After everything was said and done I congradulated them and left. . . . breaking done in the nurses lounge as I went to the fridge to pick up my fertility meds to take home.
It's one thing to have pg friends, but when it's family it's soooooo much harder. Esp being there. I don't think I can do that again anythime soon.
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I have never had to doing anything quite as painful and don't now if i could have held it together as well as you did. My brother and his family were here from Australia visiting me for 3 weeks, i found it so hard being around his 5 month baby. It's so hard, people thats don't have fertility issues really don't understand how hard it really is.
I know my family has a hard time understanding just how difficult this is for us. My mom, and older sister have all gotten pregnant on the first try's. So it is difficult for them to see. They say things like 'it's alright for you to be sad, but why are you this upset?'
My favorite was when they told me to go home because I wasn't sharing in the tales of regale of birthing stories. . . sorry unless you want to hear about our dog and her ten pups then I've got nothing for you.
It has been so so so so so difficult. I love my family, but sometimes advice on conceiving is better left as a thought and not a verbal communication between people.
DH and I think that we might not tell them that we are having IUI done this round, as last month every twinge was a sign from the heavens that it worked. . . every day they would call 'How do you feel? Do you feel normal?, Have you tested?'. . . . . We just want to not think about the 2WW, but everyday with people asking you can't help but to think about it. . . . ACK!
I LOVE my family, and the newest little guy is just perfect! I'm so happy for them, and I'm grateful that I was able to see the birth. The birth itself was awesome, but the after and the rejoycing was the hard part. That's where all self restraint was gone.
Sage Lawarnace, 6Lbs 14oz, 21in long, born @ 9:13 pm. . . PERFECT little boy! He's a doll!!!
Keep your chin up. Stay strong.
Heather