Should I get tested for HIV?
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University of Washington
Seattle - WA
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Thanks so much!
Fewer than 1 in 1,000 men like you describe have HIV, and the actual rate may be as low as 1 in 10,000 or even less than that. In your partner, the chance is less than 1 in a million, because of his history of having a negative HIV test recently. Herpes or not, the chance you have HIV is much lower than other risks you accept on continuing basis, day in and day out. For example, living in the US, the odds you'll die within a year due to an accident are 1 in 1,756, which probably is at least 1,000 times higher than the likelihood you have HIV.
Please accept the reassurance you have been given and stop trying to convince me (and yourself) that you are at high risk for HIV. You are not.
PS: Don't forget your seatbelt.